The Psychology of Showing Off
Posted: Sunday, January 31, 2010
by Farouk Radwan
2knowmyself
Most of us don't like showy people because we assume that they are arrogant and because they sometimes remind us of our low achievements.
From the outside showy people appear to be happy, possessing many things that others really want and sometimes superior, But what most people don't know is that the inside is very much different.
Showing off is equal to did you notice me?
Some small kids try to do really distracting movements when their parents don't give them much attention. The child might get involved into actions that appear to be weird and very risky in order to get the parent's attention.
But why would a child strive for attention? Because he believes that he is not getting enough of it.
If you met the CEO of a large well known corporation he is very less likely to tell you that he earns a lot of money or that he lives in a large house simply because the man knows that you have already guessed that.
If the man became unsure of the impression you formed of him he might then start to show off to improve that image if he cares about your opinion.
Try to put a confident person down or to prove to him that he is worthless and he will reply back by showing off all of his Good qualities and achievements.
In short, the following is the truth about showy people:
* The feel they aren't noticed or recognized: Showy people believe that they didn't get the attention they deserve and so they show off to send one clear message "I am here, please notice me". So actually a showy person is begging you to notice him while you might be begging him to accept you!!
* They care about people's opinion: To some people the opinion of others doesn't matter that much and doesn't have a significant impact on their happiness. To showy people it's the opposite, the opinion of others is the most important thing and if they failed to let others like them they might feel really bad
* Some of them believe that people are underestimating them: because of believing that people are underestimating them showy people do their best to show off their best traits to prove that they are worthy!!
How to deal with show offs
Contrary to common beliefs Show offs are the ones who are in need of your attention.
The guy who drives this 1 million dollar car and who looks at the people in the streets hoping that they look back is weaker than them because while he needs their attention they need nothing from him.
If the showy person matters to you then give him attention and he will like you and if he doesn't matter to you then simply ignore him.
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